Parent Articles Series – Article 1
The power of positivity:
I know you have heard they sayings about being positive. We all know that having a positive disposition will always give you better results or perceived better results.
I always like using the example of when you are having a great day, you notice positive things like the birds are singing, the sun is shining, everyone is smiling today etc.
When you are having a bad day, you could see and experience all of the same things, but your brain will perceive and hone in on some very different things. The birds are annoying today, man it’s hot outside, what are they all happy about?
Having a positive disposition takes work, but it is an important step in living a happy and fulfilling life. It also will impact your children, your spouse, friends and family.
I was reading a book today and they used an excellent example of the power of positivity. “One salesgirl in a candy store always had customers lined up waiting, while other salesgirls stood around. The owner of the store noted her popularity and asked for her secret. “it’s easy,” she said. “the other girls scoop up more than a pound of candy and then start subtracting some. I always scoop up less than a pound and then add to it.”
It is amazing how a small change like that can influence your results.
Alright, that’s all well and good but how does this help me be a better parent?
First off, if you are more positive around your kids they in turn will also mimic your positivity. If you find your kids are a little Johnny raincloud lately, think about what you have been like? What kind of language have you been using? Have things been happening “to” you?
Second, you can start projecting positive results rather than fear. I have a saying that fear is a mental projection of a negative outcome. So rather than motivating with fear, motivate with positivity. Here is an example: “if you don’t study for your spelling test, you are going to fail” vs. “You should study for your spelling test, so you can ace it, like I know you can”
Give it some thought! I know after writing this, I myself need to ramp up my positivity at home for both me and my family.
Thanks for reading
Quote from Discipline without stress by Dr. Marvin Marshall